The Everyday Project Manual

Below is the preface to the Everyday Project manual that I am writing as a result of a successful Kickstarter campaign.  There are still a few days left in the campaign.  If you ever thought about starting your own project, now’s the time to do it.  You get a copy of the manual for only $3. 

 

The Everyday Project: A Guide
Preface

In the 2080s, I suspect I will fall victim to one type of cancer or another.  Given my demographics, I should live to be almost 90 without too much of a problem–so long as I don’t get in a violent car accident or piss off my future wife too badly (which is a possibility).  In the days that follow, my family, friends, and former coworkers will gather for my viewing.  I’m quite the introvert, so I imagine this being a small event.

Some people have specifics about what their funeral will look like.  Who gives the eulogy.  Where it is held.   I only have one stipulation for my funeral.   At some point I want the lights dimmed and my Everyday Project to play from start to finish.  I started when I was 17.  So long as I live a normal lifespan, the video will show me aging more than 60 years.  At the current rate, a year passes in my video every 18.26 seconds.  If I keep that speed, the Project will last nearly 20 minutes.  Enough time for the mourners to truly reflect.

It’s hard to imagine that a lifetime project will end up being only 20 minutes.  But it is so much more.  If you are reading this manual, then you already know the power of an Everyday Project.  All you have to do is watch one.  I will never forget the first time I watched Noah’s project nearly a decade ago.  At first all I could think was, “Who’s this guy?”  Then it was, “This guy must really like his face.”  But then hair is cut.  Beards grow and are shaved.  The default background suddenly changed….

..and you suddenly realize that you are being invited into an incredibly intimate part of someone’s life that can be expressed in few other mediums.  Everything changes in our lives.  Our clothes go through cycles.  We move.  People in the background fall in and out of our lives.  But we are still there.  Aging, ever so slowly.  It’s a thought that brings up so much emotion–from primal fear of death to bottomless courage to live life.

To me, The Everyday Project is so much more than an egotistical selfie project that we all get labeled as by the comment section.  It is project that grows in meaning with every passing year.  When you reach your first year, it’s cool to look back and know that you were able turn it into a habit.  When you hit three years, you start to feel something when your watch your project.  You aren’t simply seeing yourself from three years ago.  You are seeing the person you were three years ago turn into the person you are today.

Once you hit the 5-7 year mark, you know you can never go back.  It’s addictive.  For me, the start of September means it’s time to put together another Everyday Project video.  Another year.  I may only be adding 18 seconds to the video, but that’s not what you see.  You see a long string winding through different phases.

As I near eight years, I see myself finishing out high school, hating college, struggling with finding a career, going off to the Peace Corps, coming home, and starting a career.  Through all that, you can spot old girlfriends over my shoulder.  Friends show up quite often.  The Eiffel Tower is in the back of one photo.  Watching the video acts like an injection of nostalgia pumped directly into your heart Pulp Fiction style.

This is why I try to encourage people to start the project and make it their own.  So far I have convince two family members and one friend to start their own project.  I hope to reach many more with this manual.  Thanks to the extremely generous backers on Kickstarter, this is now a reality.  This manual will cover all the basics.  I will take you from before you take the first picture to turning it into a lifelong project.   Before we begin, I’m going to start with the one piece of advice I repeat to anyone who is interested in this project:

It is never too late start an Everyday Project.  Whether you are 11 or 65, your project will quickly become something you cherish.

Career Path

Over the past three weeks, I have jumped head-first into the world of work.  With dozens of applications and about 10 interviews,  I believe I can make a living by being a professional interviewee.  I know how to answer every question thrown my way with examples and results.  Not to mention the fact that every office manager hears me talk about Peace Corps and instantly wants to hear more.  It’s like crack for those in an office setting.

But today threw me a bit.  In an interview this morning, one of my interviewers filled up a ten-minute interruption with a discussion about books about professional development.  I asked him to name a few.  Most of them made sense.  How to Become CEO. Outliers: The Story of Success. I could understand why he was sharing this information with me.  As a young man just out of the Peace Corps and looking to start a career, I am prime yet raw.  Molding is what will turn me into a good employee.  But then he recommended his favorite book.  The Art of War.  I’ve spent a great deal of my day contemplating whether or not I want to read this book and whether or not I would ever want to apply it in an office setting.  I also took a personality test which told me I am INFJ…which explains why I overthought the conversation.  So….I wrote a short poem.  Because that’s what I do.  So there.

The Promotion

Until Next Time.  Enjoy.

Ask Me Anything

This is a permanent invite that I should have posted a long time ago.  If you are looking into joining the Peace Corps and have random questions, feel free to ask me anything.  If you are in the Peace Corps and just want to know my experience, ask away.  If you have no affiliation with Peace Corps, I’ll still answer whatever you want.  Send me an email or find me on Facebook.  I’ve been through it all.  I bordered on Early Termination.  I have loved my service.  I have dealt with how romance effects service.  If you want advice or have a specific question, I’m sure I can help or point you in the right direction.

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Fired Up & Ready To Go

I just slept for a good ten hours.  Although I don’t feel completely at 100% yet, I am ready to get back to work.  I know I was at work for the past five weeks, but it felt less like work at the orphanage as time went on.  Now that I’m back in site, I have many volunteers to contact about several different ongoing projects.  At the same time, I am going to start looking for a new house and working on paperwork for the Peace Corps.  It really is going to be a busy couple of weeks.

I think I fell a day behind on my Memory Challenge during my travels.  I’ll update twice today to catch up.  I just spent half an hour fixing all the links in the Challenge.  All the memories are now available to read.  Here is Day Eleven:

Day Eleven: AIM Crush Realization

Field Strip to Casablanca

I just went on a field trip to Casablanca with 15 of the best artists in the orphanage.  It was a great experience.  We were fed a fantastic lunch (FOR FREE!!!).  Then, after walking around the campus of the country club, the kids were given an endless supply of good paper and paint.  They painted for two full hours.  It is incredible how many people want to give to these kids.  This is at least the fourth group that I’ve seen interacting with the kids in a big way–and I have only been here for four weeks.  They come from a tough background, but they have an incredible upbringing in this place.

Another day, another memory:

Day Seven: Lightening in the Cemetery

 

Witnessing a Beautiful Moment

This moment has been with me for the past five hours.  I was t the supermarket behind the orphanage.  As I checked out, I made the lazy decision to take the moving walkway instead of the stairs.  As I walked up to the walkway, there was a 50-year old woman standing there, looking at it.  She was in her hijab, looking really uneasy.  I gave her a smile as I passed by her.  A part of me wanted to help, but I knew that would be inappropriate.

I’m glad I didn’t.  When I looked back at the woman, her husband had caught up with her.  He took her hand and eased her slowly onto the platform.  It took her a couple false starts, but she got the hang of it.  It was so cute. It was one of those moments when I realize I want a love that lasts into old age.

That being said, my next memory is about a wedding:

Day Six: My Sister’s Wedding

 

Spending Time on Yourself

One of the best things about the Peace Corps is that it forces you to confront yourself.  The quote that comes to mind is, “You can never avoid yourself because–no matter where you go–there you are.”  The solitude that comes with service amplifies that.  You get to figure out who you are alone–and in an environment you don’t understand.  You go through endless existential crisis and emotional collapses.  But the most amazing thing blossoms out.  You become a better you.  Spending so much time thinking and realizing the truth about your life forces you to confront your problems head-on.

I am loving this opportunity.  I am finding a way to be a better me while simultaneously being a better friend to the people that I care about.  It’s hard to remold yourself after adulthood, but it is quite nice to see the changes inside me.

Her is day five from the 50-Day Memory Challenge:

Day Five: How She Lost Her Mother Twice

 

The Weekend at Last

It hasn’t been an especially long week, but I found myself excessively tired this morning.  After doing our morning with the young kids, I was glad to be on weekend.  Now I get a day and a half off before doing the intense last week of work here at the orphanage.  It’s been a great month for me–full of reflection and work and writing.  I have come up with several ideas for how to utilize my time in the Peace Corps.  Most of it requires wifi for faster internet.  So September is going to be an interesting month for me–looking for a new house and setting up the internet while I start working with the kids.

Today is the third day of The 50-Day Memory Challenge.  I wrote about last summer–reflecting on the massive fire that burned the mountains just outside my town.

Day Three: Watching Colorado Burn

Sharing Important Moments

While shopping today, I ran into a older married couple that is serving in this wonderful beach-side city.  They informed me that their son just became a father a few hours ago.  It only took me a couple questions to realize that I was talking to newly-minted grandparents.  This was their grandchild.  If it weren’t for them telling me, I’m sure I could have guessed by the eternal grin on their faces.  I wonder if that grin ever really fades.

For today’s 50-Day Memory Challenge, I took a memory I wrote last year and completely rewrote it.  It is about the Inauguration of Barack Obama.

Day Two: Inauguration Day 2009

Getting Back to Writing with a Memory Challenge

Now that this blog is back to being a writing blog rather than a Peace Corp Writer’s blog, it is time to embark on a new project.  After much contemplation, I decided to restart the 50-Day Memory challenge.  I tried to do this last year, but broke a lot of the rules and stopped far short of the goal.  If all goes well, I should be done with this project in early October.  I hope you enjoy.

The 50-Day Memory Challenge